The Best Psychology Book I read, the Bible
Much of Psychology is man’s way to make sense of a fallen world- what we refer to as psychiatric disorders are to the Christian referred to as stronholds- deeply ingrained defective patterns of thinking deeply rooted in lies about ourselves, others, life and God.
Im not saying all conditions from a psychiatric standpoint are just mind over matter, there are some that do require medications, so not all but a large handful.
Take for example excessive rage or constant aggressive mindsets- or prolonged anxiety. Alot of people do not have a diagnosis except for they have believed things that cause them fear for so long that their brain has formed a well worn path called anxiety through their minds.
These mindsets are not good for one’s health, From an actual medical standpoint according to actual research they validate what is already written in scripture without realizing it.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
“The wages of sin is death” both physically and spiritually.
Anger is a terrible stronghold, Im not referring to all indignation and all anger but if the constant undercurrent of one’s life is anger then it is a deadly prison that can isolate and trap, I used to be a bitter person, like a rattlesnake I was alway coiled and poised to strike anyone I thought might step on me. I often perceived danger/threats where people really were not out to get me and I would strike and inject my liquid rage into hapless victims who never really intended me harm, the Lord helped me so much not to be as combustible but it was a slow process and involved my cooperation.
Past hurts contribute to infectious rage, undealt wounds become infected and spill poisonous puss of self righteous rage. Some offenses in my past were not done with premeditated malice or ill intent but by people who meant no harm if they could have avoided it but were in situations where they did step on my toes. I had been rejected alot in life, by girls, job opportunities, exct- not only this but I carried my own preconceived insecurities that were only reinforced by painful incidences. This is why someone who is struggling in this way can be very easily unsettled or angered by certain topics, if you are talking with someone who is in this mess we all probably find ourselves at one time you can actually be talking to them and they can be set off by the “trigger” which is in essence a detonation switch that will set off all their anger and negative recolections all at once like a grand finalley at a 4th of July parade. You may have to be very careful with these people like you would an injured pitbull that is hyper sensitive to the slightest touch.
Alot of their issue is not just anger- its deeper, anger is the byproduct and symptom just like a chicken pox or shingles outbreak is caused by the underlying virus- the lies they believe will trigger these episodes.
For me it was “Austin look at you, your in a wheelchair and are weird and I know you like yourself as you are but women wont want you- the ones that will are so hard to find that someone else will get to them before you can, your not that attractive man and you have all these things against you really. The odds of you meeting a girl are very small and plus you do not make much money, women do not like guys who cannot make enough money”
Well it took a while but I had to confront these with what God says-
Psalm 84:11 For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.
Not to say a spouse is guaranteed but the truth is God loves to provide for His children’s needs and often he does give them the desires of their hearts as well.
Psalm 127:1-3 Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat— for he grants sleep to those he loves. Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.
And their are many rich promises in scripture that open a window into God’s loving heart.
People who worry all the time are from my standpoint people who love to control things, I know because worry is one of my biggest strongholds in this point of my Christian life-if we worriers feel like we cannot control a possible situation that might go bad we panic, yet Jesus taught us we cannot change much of anything through fretting.
Matthew 6:25-34 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Jesus basically says, we cannot add to our life by it- —-no, we only suffer the health affects of it really. Also worry does not decrease any future problems and adding trouble is the essence of worrying, each day has a sufficient set of problems. We are to “Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness” (making his goals for saving lost sinners and bringing them into his family as well as growing more into who he wants us to be) and he will provide for what we need to get through life.
Guilt-Prolonged guilt is not good for your health, it can really drain and suffocate a man or woman. We have all done things we know are wrong. Guilt is healthy if it gets us to effectively deal with our sin but being soaked in it all the time is not good.
Guilt is a “check engine light” in your heart, false guilt is like a check engine light that wont go off if there is no actual problem or if an actual problem has been fixed. My check engine light once came on and stayed on just because the gas cap was not on tight enough and then did not go off until I got the code cleared- but if there was a problem and I kept going and did not get it looked into then this too would be serious!
Conviction from God’s Spirit shows us specifically what wrong we did or harbored in our heart. How do we get this dealt with, only one way, coming to our soul mechanic, the only trained One who can fix our heart and forgive our wrong actions.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
To confess is to acknowlege our problem and then Jesus Christ forgives us and moves in us to not just keep damaging our heart engine but rather do what it takes to rectify the problem through repentence- repentence is a change of heart and ways. If I were a thief and I acknowleged I sinned before God then I would receive His Cleansing through Christ and repent by aiming to live differently!
2 Corinthians 7:8-11 Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it—I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while— yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.
So being weighed down all the time by guilt after we have made ammends with God and also those we wrong can be a drain, Christ washes away all our sins when we genuinely turn to Him and as a Christian He corrects us through His Spirit when we need it but to constantly feel “Woe is me!” Is a very caustic way to live and damages your witness for Christ.
Its one thing to be authentic and let the world know your not perfect and still make mistakes but if you were like me not terribly long ago you carried a sense of weighiness and constant feelings of condemnation which is not how God calls us to live- we are called to take sin seriously but not beat ourselves up for what Christ is willing to forgive. Be serious but not so serious your bruising yourself all over and blackening your eyes. Christ has already took that beating and died in your place and mine so we can live as “New Creations”