My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him. I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt. I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer. ——Song of Songs 5:4-6 –
We see the man who was in this story made an effort to reach out to her, she lingered too long and so he withdrew himself for a time- she began to regret it and his absence stirred her heart to go in search of him.
Yet this would not surprise me if the Lord does so. He will not let us take His love for granted but if we neglect time for Him, he may soon hide himself- we may feel that heavy sense he has withdrawn and veiled himself behind thick cloud. Yet so is the ways of the Lord often, he knows how to bring out the ripeness of desire from a true believer, like the man in the story knew his withdrawing would stir in her a desire for his presence while she was facing his absence.
So often as people we take for granted good we enjoy- the Lord loves for us to enjoy his goodness and the good he does for us, yet we dare not take His love for granted lest he may have to use similar means with us.
We all have heard “playing hard to get” and people assume only women play that game- yet in this case the man did and we see how it affected her.
Truly you are a God who has been hiding himself, the God and Savior of Israel.
Isaiah 45:15 –
Why does anyone withdraw like that? Well in hopes that the person they may do that unto may begin to miss the companionship and be stirred in earnestness to search that person out, proving through some measure of effort they “desire” that person who hides.
Yet make no mistake. As complex as human beings are the Lord is much more sophisticated and knows the value of “Silence”
Does he do so to be cruel or mean? Does he do so to retaliate or just give silent treatment.
No- silence is sometimes his way of restoring relationship to become stronger and better than before. If your wife went silent on you for example- you know you may be in trouble. She is probably hoping you may start pondering over and figure out what you have done to upset her so you can “take initiative and make a mends with her”
Yet the Lord may use silence too to that affect. He wants us to examine our hearts and ripen our desire and longing for him- so that whatever is amiss we will deal with and we may make an effort to “earnestly seek him” (Hebrews 11:6)
Wouldn’t God want us to make some effort to in such a relationship? Of course you could say a man may hope the woman he makes an effort for recipricates and shows that same effort to ocassionally pursue him too. Is it only women who desire to be pursued. Is it only a man’s role to make all the effort without her lifting a finger on her end to express how much he means to her? Well why would you say the Lord is only the one who makes effort and does not also desire and delight in it when we offer up free will praise and express our love through worship, trust and obedience.
If a man for example makes great efforts for a woman and she seems less and less impressed by it- he is inclined to withdraw his efforts entirely for a time to see whether or not she will miss them at all or notice they are gone. Yet when the Lord does so, let us also consider our hearts may have become dull or complacent, maybe spoiled as we human beings can be have neglected him even though it is said “if we are faithless, he is still faithful”
God’s love is always coming to us through his faithfulness. Yet in order for us to fully benefit from that we must notice, recognize and delight in it for what it is. What good is all God’s expressions of love if we are too dulled to truly enjoy them. What if we have grown sleek and fattened- he may allow us to face spiritual leanness for a season in hopes our wayward hearts return to “The first love”
2 I know your deeds, your hard work and your perseverance. I know that you cannot tolerate wicked people, that you have tested those who claim to be apostles but are not, and have found them false. 3 You have persevered and have endured hardships for my name, and have not grown weary. 4 Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. 5 Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. If you do not repent, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place.
Revelation 2:2-5 –
We do not lose our salvation, yet we become dull by neglecting time with him in His presence, ah indeed the lamps of our devotion grow dimmer and we fail to shine light as we should to influence the world around us
So that is why we must prioritize the relationship with the Lord and not neglect His life giving presence