Category Archives: Revenge OR Mercy

Don’t Lie In A Bed Of Emotional Puke.

Dirty engine oil, that will eventually cause issues. They say you need an oil change after a certain amount of driving, and cannot recall the exact amount, but emotional engines like our heart have the capacity for accumulating filth. Many drive their lives throughout their weeks and months letting deposits of emotional dirt and grime pollute their emotional engines and spiritual transmission.

Here is another term I will call, “Emotional Cache” and in computer terms, you have what is called “History” that tracks your website usage and all the websites you been to.

Many people also have emotional history, a lot of it is negative and unavoidable, and has just resulted from being around people just as imperfect as we all are for a long enough time to gather some amount of negative emotional catch. If we cannot figure out how to push, “clear history” by forgiving these people, then our emotional hardrive will fill up and cause problems in us, spiritually, emotionally, as well as socially . This is why many marriages fall apart, loved ones grow apart from time and strain, also this is why friends seperate when a small argument can remind them of all that past cache from yesteryear.

Because your petty argument today can have strings that open up hurts from years long gone.

God, however, does not do this with us once we have trusted by faith to call on the name of Christ for the “erasing” of “God’s History” of all the wrong things we have done, to both him and others, and even when we fall as believers, which is not the goal of a true child of God,  but when it happens, he erases the History daily.

(Lamentations 3:22-23) Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

If God held a grudge then all Christians too would be condemned since we still fall into sin, yet:

(Romans 8:1-2) Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.

So when we choose not to forgive others, we not only harm ourselves, but  we also are showing contempt for God’s mercy. That is why Jesus said,

(Matthew 6:14-15) For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

We cannot earn salvation by forgiving people, the scripture is clear that we are “saved by grace through faith, not of yourselves but as a gift of God, not by works so that no one can boast” (Ephesians 2:5)

Yet, if a genuinely converted Christ follower who has not forgiven someone, it will gnaw at their souls and fester like an infected sore until they have no choice but to let go of the unresolved bitterness. I am convinced God won’t let a Christian stay like that forever, unless they never truly gave themselves over to following Christ but merely only said some words and walked an isle without sincerely turning their lives over to Christ.

However, a born again person truly changed by the grace of God has no choice, and this does not mean we re-establish unhealthy interpersonal interactions, since the Bible warns us to avoid certain unhealthy social situations, but it does means we have to let go of malice and let God judge and not begrudge the person who wronged us. Grudges cause relational break downs among more then just the offender and the offended, because if the offended sits in a bed of sour emotional vomit their hearts will blister and irritated. They will take out their fears, distrust and anger on people who slight them unintentionally because their thinking becomes raw toward everyone.

Three Practical Ways To Entrust Our Enemies to the Lord.

Proverbs 13:10 Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.

Pride is usually the cream filled center of every divisive or heated argument. No one enjoys looking like the loser of an argument, no one likes admitting their wrong, and no one likes this especially when they know the other person won’t own their part in the blame.This is hard for me! But I got to remind myself:

1 Corinthians 6:7-8 The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? Instead, you yourselves cheat and do wrong, and you do this to your brothers and sisters.

It’s not fun or pleasant to be wronged, but it is far better then to be the one doing the wrong!

Romans 12:17-21 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

There are three steps to fight pride and the desire to come out on top.

1.) Acknowledge God is in control and has the ability and prerogative to deal with people who wrong you. “Vengeance is mine” says the Lord.
2.) Do good to your enemies-

Sometimes its not wise to interact with certain people do to the nature of their offenses, so it that case prayer is essential. Pray that God allows them to repent and seek forgiveness, pray that God changes them and helps them to turn from evil and do good. These are not prayers that enable sinners- no, but they are prayers that can change them.
3.) Commit your case to God and let him deal with the person in a way he seems right.
1 Peter 4:19 So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.

Clean Justice or Messy Revenge

When we deal revenge it is messy business that is seldom if ever able to only deal with our offenders. Yet when God deals justice it is clean an thorough and without error. When mankind deals revenge its a mess.

-Romans 12:19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. –