Proverbs 13:10 Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.
Pride is usually the cream filled center of every divisive or heated argument. No one enjoys looking like the loser of an argument, no one likes admitting their wrong, and no one likes this especially when they know the other person won’t own their part in the blame.This is hard for me! But I got to remind myself:
1 Corinthians 6:7-8 The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? Instead, you yourselves cheat and do wrong, and you do this to your brothers and sisters.
It’s not fun or pleasant to be wronged, but it is far better then to be the one doing the wrong!
Romans 12:17-21 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
There are three steps to fight pride and the desire to come out on top.
1.) Acknowledge God is in control and has the ability and prerogative to deal with people who wrong you. “Vengeance is mine” says the Lord.
2.) Do good to your enemies-
Sometimes its not wise to interact with certain people do to the nature of their offenses, so it that case prayer is essential. Pray that God allows them to repent and seek forgiveness, pray that God changes them and helps them to turn from evil and do good. These are not prayers that enable sinners- no, but they are prayers that can change them.
3.) Commit your case to God and let him deal with the person in a way he seems right.
1 Peter 4:19 So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good.