We live in a world where people do like to exercise authority, privilege, and the upper hand over others for self interest or gain. But this is not how God calls his children to live. According to Romans 12, it says, “Do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind”
Many people cringe at the idea of submitting to ANYONE, and that is because many of us view this as being ordered here and their and being controlled. What makes that even more difficult is the idea of following or submitting to anyone who does not have our best interests in mind but comes from someone who just likes to be in control. I do not blame anyone who thinks submission is that for having a negative reaction. The truth is that submission and trust are not easily divorced from each other without negative results! In my mind, Id say, “Why submit to someone who does not really care about my feelings or needs but only likes a power trip.”
God is not like that! Oh never! His every word is meant for our benefit and not harm.
Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)” For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Biblical submission is very different than the world’s idea. Imagine being madly in love with someone, so in that case bending over backwards and going the extra mile is no chore, no! On the contrary! Its a joyous privilege!
In Mark 10:42-45, Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
Well imagine that! The God of Heaven in the incarnation of Jesus Christ serving the ones who owed him? He washed their feet, and in the end was brutally tortured and hung on a cross, not because he had to but because we needed it.
In the same way a godly man is willing to forfeit any rights to comfort he may have to see his wife well nourished emotionally and spiritually. He is not going to be overbearing or demanding! Love does not demand its own way but voluntarily yields itself for the better of them it loves.
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.