Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
This is a pretty loaded and juicy text if you dig deep into it. How does Christ love the Church? For one, he is patient with her and two, He loves her unconditionally. When we were saved by him, He does not give up on us and will wait very patiently when His children go astray. The third way is Christ loved the Church sacrificially and gave up His comforts and glory in heaven to win and woo his bride, as the text says “and gave himself up for her” He gave his all even before she could reciprocate.
“For while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” Romans 5:8
Colossians 3 gives us a little more insight, “19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”
Christ is not harsh, he can be stern when we stray as sheep into poison ivy patches but he is not the kind of sheperd who will beat up his sheep in anger. He gently corrects, convicts, and yes at times will discipline his children for good not destruction. For those who belong to him as Romans 8:1 says are not under “condemnation”
Not that I’m any expert on marriage but I came across this text and it has always been a fascinating one in my opinion because one day by God’s gracious provision I hope to be married, and whatever happens happens but as Scripture says “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,” So whether married or single this verse still has very juicy implications regardless. We should treat others as Christ would, and even if they can be irritating or irksome at times whether it is a sibling or spouse or whomever, we learn that if we are going to represent Jesus Christ we should clothe ourselves with “compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12
We don’t have to approve of one’s behavior or ideas to be patient, in fact, what use is patience for those whom you agree with 100 percent of the time? There is no patience necessary for those whom there is no friction, since in many translations the Biblical word for patience is “long suffering”- Yes the pain of enduring opposition and conflict without retaliation.