Proverbs 15:28 The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.
Powerful little proverb and a convicting one at that. Our words have more power than we realize and they can either effect people for good or harm. James describes the tongue as a fire and says “It’s a restless evil full of deadly poison”
James 3:8 8 but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
Our words can, like scorpions, deliver deadly stings that can impact people. If the words of the mouth are full of the venom of perversity or bitterness the can cut like a sword and leave people wounded for years. We must be careful to weigh what we say in a few ways I think and I will be the first to admit I need more practice in this area.
1.) Is it beneficial?–Will what you say be the most constructive for that moment.
2.) Is it reasonable? –What a person’s reason and motivation for saying something can make all the difference. If we are trying to advise someone we must consider, am I doing this with the true motive of pointing them to Christ, or a solution to a problem, or am I saying this out of resentment or possibly a little vindictiveness. People will sometimes say, well “it’s the truth, and the truth hurts. They will get over it”- This is not the most loving way to address a situation.
3.) Is it timely? Time makes all the difference sometimes.Somebody may be overwhelmed enough as it is and if you bring up a particular issue at just the wrong time it may be the straw that breaks the camels back.