A Christian’s primary motive for pointing out sin in anyone should be to point them to Christ. Rather then just showing others their problems we should seek the best solution as well. Christ came to show man his sinfulness, but not without reason. Christ, unlike the Pharisees of the day saw not just people’s sin and problems but provided the Solution of himself.
If one’s motive is pure and driven by love for the other individual then it can be very constructive, however if someone goes around in an angry and bitter spirit then they don’t influence much of anyone. People might see their advice as good, but who wants to take to heart something that is harsh and overly critical? If someone, whether they are a believer or not is struggling and they feel as if the only reason you are pointing something out is to just be hard on them, they most likely will tune you out. Sometimes the truth does hurt, but we shouldn’t try to make it hurt any worse.
I have myself recently had a break through in the area of being an overly critical person, as some of you may have observed, I struggle at times with either being to hard on myself or to hard on others. However, the one thing that really contributed to my break through was a deeper revelation of God’s unconditional love for me and part of my negativity was stemming from my own self condemnation. The Lord has power to deliver, and I’m so grateful he has. I realize his love for me does not depend on me. Someone with that deep awareness will begin to see transformation inside, maybe gradually. All the glory be God’s but I now see sinners in a different light. View the enemies of God through the eyes of Christ. Christ loved his enemies, yes, including the Pharisees. His ultimate goal was not to condemn but convict. There is a vast difference between the two. Condemnation presents the problem without a solution, Conviction on the other hand says, “Here is the problem and Christ is the solution”—When God convicts, he does not crush a person in despair. “Godly sorrow produces repentance but worldly sorrow produces death”
When God shows a person their problems he does so to to restore them,
When Satan shows a person their problems he does so to destroy them.
If it causes you to fall on your knees before God in dependence and need, then it is from the Lord. However, if it drives you from fear and shame from God then that is Satan’s work. “A Kingdom divided against itself cannot stand” why would God show anyone their wickedness just to drive them further from Him and His grace. If then, the impression a person gets when they have blown it truly is from God than it will drive them back to the Cross not further from it. The Cross is their for the evil, the ungodly, and the failures. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”- “For God sent his son not into the world to condemn the world but to save the world”
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.